It’s an old cliché that
you only get one chance to make a first impression, but unlike with the
opposite sex, if practice made perfect it means that all that time spent
practicing amounts to dollars left on the table just trying to get it right.
You can read over the volumes of thick tomes dedicated to unraveling the
mystery as to what to say to make the perfect first impression, or simply be
aware of the fact that a first impression of you is made even before you open
your mouth – the implications this has for business are unfathomable.
A couple of compelling theories to consider
In a study out of
Harvard, published in Psychological Bulletin in 1992 by Ambady & Rosenthal,
it was found that there is strong evidence supporting peoples’ ability to
quickly and accurately judge others. So when people tell you that they are
“excellent judges of character”, statistically they are, if unwittingly,
telling the truth. What Ambady & Rosenthal concluded was that you could know
someone for a few seconds, or for a year, and your impression of them would be
the same.
In a much less
scientifically controlled environment, Art of Charm founder Jordan Harbinger
explained on the Bulletproof Executive’s podcast recently, in the context of
men seeking women at a night club, that a group of women will develop an
impression of a man the moment he walks into the club – or as he charmingly
puts it, “the moment he appears on their radar” – and not when he musters the
courage to approach them.
What do these examples mean for business?
Haven’t put it together
yet?
For years, a lot of
emphasis has been put on the importance of, and how much you can know about
someone, from their having a firm handshake. Well the truth is just about
everything in business, from networking, to the job interview, to landing a
major deal relies heavily on everything you do before you even shake on
anything.

Networking and unlocking the secrets of non-verbal communication
As superficial as it may
seem, success anywhere happens in about 10 seconds and comes down to a few
exterior traits. So no matter how lovable you may be, or how brilliant your
ideas are, it’s essential to at least master a few surface qualities so that
these deeper traits have a chance to see the light of day.
In much the same way
that a handshake was once regarded as the way to communicate confidence and
self-assuredness, people like Ambady, Rosenthal, and Harbinger are now proving
that what you wear, how you enter a room, and how you walk and carry yourself
have the ability to project the same thing. Neglecting these facts could be the
difference between a payday and planning on not making the same mistake next
time.
Ten seconds. That’s all
it takes. So don’t wait to work up the courage to connect because statistics
show that the longer you wait the more your opportunity to make a perfect first
impression slips away. Establishing contact the moment you appear on someone’s
radar is just another way to project the confidence they are looking for. So
don’t waste time second-guessing your lovability, or your great ideas, because
you, in fact, wear those on the outside.